The marriage issue

It baffles me the situation with marriage in Libya. Girls are all about being married, it is like their goal in life, that's where their life ends.
So the show must go on, just to get married.
What is even strange is that once a prospective Husband/man comes in request, all of a sudden the scale changes and he becomes the treasure to be exploited.
lets take a look at the following:

1-Why families have such an attitude of exploiting prospect husbands?
2-What if the female party matched the same as the amount of dowry put forth by the male party?
3-If it is so easy to share so many with out being married why bother getting married?
4-Is every thing done for the sake of "So they say"?
5-Would it be more exciting and efficient to start a life with a prospect husband and create every thing from the scratch?
Like buying every thing after the marriage ceremony and spread it over time etc.
( facing a future rather then facing each other).
Finally
6-Do you think that there is a form of hypocrisy when it comes to a marriage of a boy and a girl in the same family?( the face changes based on gender up for marriage).


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